A Big fat Vacation Part 1

Hey Gays,

One of this years vacations for my Hubby and I was a trek across Florida. This wasn't our original planned vacation but due to huge flight costs and bad exchange rates for Europe we decided to sat stateside.

How we decided on Florida was that my sister and her husband bought a house in a 55+ retirement community in a place called "The Villages" which is a bit of a strange choice for them because they're only in their 40's but any who. We flew to Orlando after a 1.5 hour delay waiting on the taxi lane to take off which started getting really annoying...but we finally made it and then got a rental car and made our way to "The Villages", en- route we had planned to make a stop at an Orlando Whole food so I could pick up some Gluten Free food but wouldn't you know it when we arrived there had been a fire alarm and the whole place had been evacuated. We got a little heated because we were tired and running late plus Jeff had a run in with the rental car guy who was trying to pressure him into an upgrade and insurance....you know how they are.

Usually on my vacations time is not an issue but in this instance my Mother, my Aunt and a friend of the family Chris had been staying at my sisters place as well and were waiting for us to grab a bite and my Aunt is a little frantic about her schedule, yikes....We did finally arrive at the "The Villages" which is actually a little scary, it's like "Pleasant ville" for the over 55 set. It is this planned fabricated community with houses that all look the same, a downtown area created by Disney and oldsters zipping around in Golf Carts. The thing is that it is a gated community but everyone still is very suspicious...

The place does have some pluses like tennis courts, Golf Courses and fabulous pools so we did enjoy that and oh yes a sexy waiter named Justin that worked in a restaurant called margarita's in the sexy side of the villages called "Spanish Springs". We had a great time with the family and my Aunt's friend Chris is so Funny, she's like a suburban version of Bette Midler...and she has a gay nephew so she's always dishing about him..



We had decided to make my sisters place our base but wanted to go to key west and planned a drive. In order to break up the long trip we decided to check out the gulf coast and settled on a lovely resort on Captiva Island called "The South Seas Island Resort". The Pic below is me driving and stuffing my face with a new flavor of Lays I found on Captiva Island called Dill ranch....very tasty and Gluten Free, thanks Lays



We also stopped at a couple of little villages on the coast as well called Matlacha and Bokeelia. Matlacha is a little town filled with art studio's and shops painted in Miami like colors, bright pinks and blues...we met an interesting woman who is an artist and shop owner named Bonnie, she was really friendly and very talkative. Jeff bought a pendant that had been made from a Bombay Sapphire Gin bottle, it's really pretty...it was called the "Happy Hour Collection".. We had lunch at a little shack called Capt-n-cove which was right on the water in bokeelia, it was really good , we had a tasty chowder, shrimp cocktail and Jeff had a fried fish of some sort..yummy.

After that we headed to Captiva, yikes....it was a bit longer of a drive than we thought and for the first time our trusty "Google Maps" let us down and we got a little lost which of course led to a but of a meltdown on my part....I can get a bit testy when directions go bad....after about 20 minutes we got back on track and made it to the resort, it was lovely and the beach was great, perfect after a long drive.


We really just relaxed here and had drinks in the room and enjoyed the tropical weather....I need to live in warm weather all year round...Four seasons are overrated I believe.. The pic below is me drinking on the lanai of our room lounging in a robe, is it me or am I morphing into Truman Capote?LOL





Oh gotta run gays, I'll post the second part of the vacation lowdown asap...

XO, BT

Manhunt and the Republican

Hey Gays,

While I was on vacation and hopping around Florida we had Sirius Radio in the rental car. It is fabulous and I can't believe I didn't get it sooner but I'm getting it this week. I love the Out channel and the talk radio, especially "The Frank Decaro Show". He is really funny and a fatee as well. I really would like to be a guest on that show. Actually my friend ken Kleiber does a guest spot on there....

Any who, while we were driving to the keys we heard about the "Manhunt" republican... They were taking calls on the Michelangelo signorile show and all the queens were in a titter about a guy on the board had donated money to John Mccain. So.....I was thinking...

Jeff and I started talking about it and I understand some of the gays positions about not wanting their money going to a republican candidate and if they feel they can't pay to be on Manhunt anymore that's great, just do it!!

The other part of the issue for me is that the gays should do their home work about everything they do, really. From the liquor they drink to the clothes they buy to food they eat. I'm sure all or most of the things we buy support the republican party in some way or another. I'm sure every company has a republican on the board giving money to John McCain.

I understand Manhunt is a little closer to home and the gay lifestyle but I would not automatically think that a website that is a gay sex site be owned strictly by a gay liberal. Actually in my experience all the gay bars I went to when I came out were owned by straight people who had gay managers running it or even in Rhode Island, the mob owned some of them...The owner of one bar "Gerardo's" was actually homophobic I think but that didn't stop the queens from drinking and dancing up a storm.

My point is that nothing can be 100% sacred and if we have problems with contributing money to something we don't agree with that's great but I think we have to dig a lot deeper and look a lot wider in order to keep a balance.

I do not think this guy should have been forced to resign for a political view, though I think gay republicans are morons, that doesn't give me the right to tell someone how to live their life or conduct business. Get over it Gays!!!

On the flip side of this just maybe the gays will stop going on Manhunt and go out more and talk to people. I miss the days before the Internet when you had to go out and be social in order to meet other gays. If not for that I would have never met my Jeff and we are going 14 years strong.... The Internet is good for many things but I don't think it fosters community, it makes everyone passive aggressive and creates more labels.....

OOH! goodness, I'm tired now..... I'm sure this whole Manhunt thing will "Blow over" ......LOL

XO BT

Michael Phelps, OH! Please!

Hey Gays,

Before I get to my vacation tales...there has been something on my mind and that is Michael Phelps, well not really him exactly but the media blitz and especially the gays gushing about how hot he is and being called the sexy sports figure of the week, etc., etc, etc.

The thing is I feel that if Michael Phelps was not a swimmer and didn't have gold medals and walked into a gay bar no one would probably even look at him. I'm sure some people may find him attractive but honestly he's kind of homely to me and I'm sure the gays would feel the same and he'd probably be a wall flower wanting someones attention....he is tall an lanky with big ears, weird jawline and crooked teeth...c' mon gays get off your gold standard and really take a look at him...

I'm sure he's lovely and a nice person but most gays only go for what they can see so really Would you want Michael Phelps if not for the fact that he is a gold medal winner?....I think not....

I get a little heated when the gays go ga ga......Oh, please...

xo, BT

Big As a House

Hey Gays,

Before I fill you in on my vacation I wanted to share this pic. I was frolicking in the Gulf of Mexico when this photo was taken.

Sometimes I don't realize how big I am...I don't see it in the mirror....but goodness I'm big as a house...LOL

xo BT

Vacation all I ever wanted

Hey Gays,

I went on vacation and decided to leave all the tech stuff behind, especially the lap tops and emails... I wanted to just get away with my hubby and unwind with no worries. We had a great time and I'll post pics and a few stories tomorrow. I just got back today and i'm tired.

I do have one topic I want to talk about and that is "Fat people and Disney"? I spent one day in disney and I would say 80% of the people there were overweight...and some even in wheelchairs and Jazzies....Does Mickey and Minnie make people want to eat? Think about it...

I'll be back tomorrow with a update on my vacation tour of Florida...LOL, it was fun!

XO, BT

Where's all the Fatties???

Hey gays,

So where are all the fat gays? or maybe even a fat straight person?

I've been doing this blog for a month and not one comment. I tried listing my site on "Best Gay Blogs", not sure if they did or not?? I'll have to check.

I was really thinking there were other gays like me that felt ostracized by the gay community at large for being overweight and the focus of tight abs and firm pecs kept me out of the club.....I guess I was wrong....but I won't give up...

It's funny... I'm not a twink, I'm not a bear, I'm not a Chelsea boy, I'm not a str8 acting masculine gay, I'm not a fat and fem.....I'm just a chunky gay so where do I fit in......aaaaah

That is the real question? Where do I fit in?

Maybe the answer to that is as plain as - "There is nothing to fit into, the gay community is a farce?"

or maybe- "There is nothing to fit into and you just have to pick and choose other gays that you can get along with and have fun"

or maybe- "I don't know, you should ask Ellen" I mean after all Ellen in the all knowing gay and the savior of our people (you can tell i love Ellen...not really)

The answers to these questions can go on and on and on....so why not take a chance and say hi ho or will I have to post a nude....

The gays love a nude...

xo BT

Paul Rudd Winked at Me

Hey Gays,

I don't usually get too many crushes on celebrities but I've had a huge man crush on Paul Rudd for years. I don;t care if he's thin, fat, chunky...he tends to go up in down in weight like myself...He's so damn adorable and he just seems so sweet.

Living in NYC you see lots of celebs and usually in everyday places like the supermarket, Barnes and Noble, Virgin records, health food stores...etc. etc. I've seen Drew Barrymore in Virgin records, Ted danson in Banana Republic, Susan Surandon in a cafe, Cameron Diaz at a nail salon,Matthew Broderick, Jimmy Fallon (another man crush), John Lithgow (who was rude to me), and many more but the other day I was walking up 2ND ave...

When to my surprise Paul Rudd was coming out of Dunkin Donuts and he and I literally banged into each other. it was his fault actually because he came out using his back to open the door, he had a Rite aid bag in one hand and an ice coffee in the other. Well it all happened so fast and I didn't have the time to tell him he was # 1 on my "Free Pass" list or that I just like him and his movies.....You're really not supposed to do that in NYC..Gush over celebs....

Also a "Free Pass" is a game my hubby jeff came up with that means that we have a list of 5 men that are mostly sports, music and movies men that we think are hot and would like to have sex with. Of course it would be a long shot for either of us to even meet them so we say we are ok with one another doing any guy on this list. Once in a while we talk about it and update this list, like Jeff's # 1 has been Patrick Rafter but he also has another tennis man on his list Rafael Nadal right up there.

Anyway, back to Paul! We did make instant eye contact and I of course apologized and he responded with "My bad"....oh, how sexy....LOL. He also said Sorry and before I could say anything else he winked and scurried away. I think he was embarrassed, his cheeks got a little flushed. The best thing was I had a whole block to watch him walk away and he is in one of his thin phases and really is quite attractive in person. he is shorter than me and I'm not sure but I though i smelled cigarette smoke on him..is he a smoker??? Not sure....I don't care, I'd want him anyway...LOL.

The thing is I think he lives a few blocks away from me, I watched him walk down and he took a left on 27Th street...I live on 23rd street.... I'm not the stalker type so no worries Paul but I do think I may start going to that Dunkin Donuts. This is the first person on my list I've been this close to so I'll have to check with the hubby and make sure my "free pass" is still valid....

He did wink at me after all!!

XO BT